Accidents in sex...how do we respond to them
I have always wondered since I was a little girl why more educated women tend to get married later and have less or no kids than their less highly educated peers. Of course, as I grew older it became rather apparent that the women preoccupied with their career weighing process is rather more comprehensive, lengthy and full of internal debate (why do I feel like I am describing myself...hmmm) than those who decide to dedicate their lives to family and children almost right after the high school. Please don't get me wrong there are always exceptions to the general rule in both cases. Recently I have discovered that there is something else in relation to children and family planning made me really wonder about myself and some of my female friends in a "similar picante situation". Women and men are generally very careful when it comes to family planning, if they are convinced that this is not a right time to have a baby or possibly not the right partner to a child with. So we tend to use different ways of protecting ourselves from "accidents". When we have sex we seldom think that by actually preventing ourselves from getting pregnant we are already not allowing "potential" creatures to come alive. But when and if an accident happens (if it has ever happened to the reader, s/he would understand me better) a couple suddenly becomes sooo stressed and preoccupied in relation to making a right choice: practicality or conscience (usually those are two competing issues). Strange really, why don't we weigh our reasoning during each sexual intercourse, why don't we have guilty conscience attacks when we put on a condom or take contraception pills? Have you ever thought that way?
IMHO, to most people, the general thought is that if you do not want a baby or is not ready to be a parent, then don't bring a baby into this world. It will just make everyone's lives difficult, especially the baby. It is not fair for the baby to have an irresponsible parents, just because they have a 'conscience'. Hence, people would need protection to prevent 'accidents'. And of course we don't weigh our reasonings during sexual intercourse itself, as humans are weakling who surrender to temptations of passion and lust easily. Sex is an impulsive act mostly, there's no time for guilt. Also, have you ever thought that if it is not right to disallow 'potential creatures' to come alive, then what about the millions and trillions of sperms that die each time, while (if there is an egg being fertilised), only 1 'creature' will survive. Then would you have guilt for the million other sperms?
IMHO, to most people, the general thought is that if you do not want a baby or is not ready to be a parent, then don't bring a baby into this world. It will just make everyone's lives difficult, especially the baby. It is not fair for the baby to have an irresponsible parents, just because they have a 'conscience'. Hence, people would need protection to prevent 'accidents'. And of course we don't weigh our reasonings during sexual intercourse itself, as humans are weakling who surrender to temptations of passion and lust easily. Sex is an impulsive act mostly, there's no time for guilt. Also, have you ever thought that if it is not right to disallow 'potential creatures' to come alive, then what about the millions and trillions of sperms that die each time, while (if there is an egg being fertilised), only 1 'creature' will survive. Then would you have guilt for the million other sperms?
