A few thoughts on why i feel women are worse than men when it comes to infidelity.
“Men are such pigs! They're forever chasing another skirt, especially when they already have one!”
Blah, blah blah! the normal cliché often spoken by many a woman when it comes to the male of our species fucking around. I want to put forth that women are worse when it comes to this, not that it's untrue in the least about guys always looking for something new to conquer. My opinion comes from the different approaches the two sexes have when it comes to finding a partner for the horizontal mumbo.
Bear in mind that my argument is only talking stereotypically, there are always exceptions to the rule.
To explain why women are worse we'll look at why men look for new fuck buddies. It's much harder to catch fish without bait! I'm pretty sure that almost every man will agree that no matter how you look if walk into a bar, club or other social setting alone or with your mates, the attention you may draw from the opposite sex is far less if not at all compared to the looks you'll receive if you walk in with a woman. It doesn't matter if she's Cindy Crawford or Cindy's dog, you suddenly become noticeable. For the women reading this, if you don't get it yet, when you're the woman walking into the bar with the man, YOU ARE THE BAIT! Before you feminists get upset over this, we men did not plan it this way. We merely take advantage of a situation which women create.
No matter what a guys character may be like when he deals with women (whether he's smooth or a complete dickhead), we all accept that generally as for as the opportunities to play Bed-sheet-shuffle it's the woman who decides if she wants to play. Guys are always ready. We just go out night after night looking for someone who wants to play with us. Anyone please! However we have discovered that it's much easier to change our shuffle partner than it is to get the shuffle partner. Women always want what other women have. There's no two ways about it. Women, if you're honest with yourselves you'll admit that a guy with another woman is far more interesting than one without. I'm not suggesting that you always want to screw a guy with another woman but you wonder what she see's in him don't you? It's this wondering that leads to finding out. As a guy I'm not complaining.
It is far more common to hear about a guy who sleeps with with his woman's friend than the other way around (I'm not suggesting it doesn't go the other way). Why? Let's go back to the bar and find out.
Scenario: A couple walks into a club. (I'm only speculating for the woman's thought as I'm not one)
What the woman is possibly thinking:
Firstly he's better looking than on his own, 2nd must have money or maybe a big dick but never that he might be nice guy. Only the woman with the guy will say he's a nice guy. Thirdly, Bitch! Whatever it is, curiosity has got the better of the pussy and now we have your attention. As long as I got your attention I can look like the elephant man but you've already given me the I need chance to fuck you and you just may let me. All because you gave a shit what another woman has.
What guys think:
I'd fuck her. How did that ugly fucker get her? He must be loaded, I guess she's a gold digger. That guy is a complete wanker so there's something definitely wrong with her. End result; the couple goes home and screws while the admirer goes home and has a good toss!
Both sides screw around just as much equally, it's just the approach that makes the difference.
OK ladies, let's see this from an older "girls" perspective, we are who we are, nothing more than that.... given the fact we react from the "age'(meaning me) group that we are now at, are we really are indifferent in our thoughts of self esteem? Surely not, I say, but I can't really speak (or more so write) on topics that really mean to me more personallly than anything else.... hey, I've always said, you use the same amount of effort to be miserable or happy, same amount of energy for both... think about it.. really, the simple choice is up to the individual, only words I remember clealry from my mum, life is a choice: MAKE IT WORK, IF NOT , YOU WILL SURELY MAKE IT FAIL.... choices... don't we have the both?
Could it be perhaps, that this merely a sad excuse for YOUR sense of indequcy when it comes to fulfiling YOUR women?
Psychologist have drawn statistics that can prove, that a person is more likely to do or say things, that would otherwise hurt them or their ego (coming from soemone else besides themselves) when they suffer from a lack of selfesteem or ability especially with the topic at hand.
Perhaps, instead of being so negative (and all judgemental) you might want to take step back, and for once pay attention to people around you and not just yourself, you will see that alot of times, a guy and girl that walki in to together are often veyr content with their lives until someone butt in where unwelcomed and instigates such negative thoughts and feelings.
Actually, I'm wrong right there. A couple that are really content with what they have would not even give a rats-ass about some negative saying things like that.
Having said, that, I must comment that your case study was done in club. Club mind you also tranlates into - the hub for single vultures and available predators.
At this juncture, you might probably ask me, 'Why then are you so concerned". Well, the answer to that would simply be, because I was apalled by what I read, and immediately thought of all the poor souls who might have taken that tought into serious account.
Therefore, this thought cintinuation is to balance out what was earlier said without being prejudice to gender of point of view.
